May......the force be with you!.....I mean it!!!

It feels like I have not written in a life time on here! I think it is because if I am honest with myself I have been in reflection and gathering my thoughts......sometimes its funny how things can happen in life and at points you can have real juxtapositions (the fact of two things being seen or placed close together with contrasting effect.- yep pretty much sums up things in my life that happen...or the guys I have met!! lol) .

Going by my last entry about people not writing letters etc any more.....today at work (when I should have been busy looking at my work emails!!) For some reason I logged onto my personal email account....I actually have 27762 emails.......but most are jobs, fashion subscribes and Muslim matches!....But despite this....I scrolled to the start.....2006.....8 years ago....and scrolling through I found emails from previous encounters.....such as Mr Canada, Mr Just Kidding....but not just that......females who I classed as best friends...(at that time!)...but eventually peoples true colours come out in the end!! I think there are reasons why people are removed from your life for the better and its a funny thing how it naturally happens......all I am saying is ''Karma comes around!!''....

But it lead me to think, if I had an opportunity now to say something to my younger self of 8 years ago, what would I say?....I feel as much as people and environment has changed around me....the big main thing is still the same.....still single!!! I also thought what if my future self from 8 years ahead would say to me now.....I might be loosing you guys a bit here, but yeah I'm a big thinker! My dad has always said from a young age I am silent a lot....and that itself was dangerous!!! lol.....But all in all, its made me think I have to make changes...I have been chatting to a few guys, but I am waiting around for them....just ''there''....and looking back at the old emails...I did the same...I hung around, waited on their baited breath...I can't compromise with something that is not mine, not guaranteed....I believe that compromising starts when you start your marriage and helps build the foundations of your marriage....and I am unapologetic about the fact I will not compromise with myself right now......It is all or nothing.....Guys seem to want a bit of this and that but beat around the bush when it comes to the subject of Marriage.....

There have been cases where I have been interested in some suitors and for some reason they where not interested in me, a few years down the line once I am over that episode they think they can get back in there once they know I am no longer interested!?

I am far too busy to be worrying, waiting around for nothing to happen.....I believe in keeping yourself happy.....and TREATIN YO SELFFFF!!! ;)

Life is too short! I promise not to leave it so long for my next blog entry! Until then May the force be with you! And don't et anyone poop on your happy rainbow cloud, instead chuck that poop at them!!! ;p

I ain't no fool April..(said in her Mr T voice)....don't be putting all your chocolate Easter eggs in one basket!!

HI APRIL!!!!!!

Can't pull the wool......(well now cotton T-shirt over my eyes!).

I think as women we are built with an instinctive radar....I think most people call this 'A women's instinct'. ;)
I have laid off the on line dating for a bit and I have however been proactive in talking to the last few I have met last on line.....however when you think you that your are offline and regularly chatting to one person, don't always be fooled......women are great multitasking.....but guys are seen as not good at multitasking......I think when it comes to on-line dating they are definitely are!!!

I was thinking, how had things been before? Arranging a time and place and sticking to that  date, writing letters / postcards, picking up the phone and having a conversation, randomly surprising some one by showing up......the simple gestures that where so easy to read with no complications.....my how that has all changed.....seeing when that person was last online on whats app and why did they ignored your message and did not respond, seeing a skinny hot girl they are having a photo comment conversation that comes up in your face (well on your social media wall news feed), seeing their photos on instagram and comments made by other girls......seeing them back online the online dating sites......When did everything go all upside down? You would think with communication being so accessible and easy.....the messages can still be oh so wrong and unclear.  All it takes it clear communication where are things going or simply not going?

Has the art and days of being ''Wooed'' now well and truly over? What does it take to think outside the box instead of in the A4 flat screen boxes, or hand held gadgets ones we constantly carry in our hands? Do we have to re-create the art of communication again?  I think seeing a hand held written note is so rare these days (I'm sounding like a right old fuddy duddy here!). I just think...these days we really have all been lost in communication...and that's a shame...and I think not just love letters....but even postcards could have an amazing effect and hit the message home with more impact.....I say maybe for a few mins, drop your devices and pic up a pen and write a message, draw a picture.....anything on a paper, post it note,  banana (yes I have written messages on Banana's).....whatever you like!!

I think its time for real communication to send the message home, we should take a step backwards in order to go forwards..... :)

As for me....I shall be emptying all my eggs out of my basket for now I think....will be enjoying this spring (with a spring in my step in plenty of new shoes, as a girl can never have too many ;)

But I would say the main important thing is, never limit yourself and you are never foolish for making yourself clear and well....just putting that message out there....even if it is in a bottle ;) xxx

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http://www.moreloveletters.com/blog/