Monday 29 December 2014

2014 The year of the Jive Turkey.....2015 The year of the Peacock ;)

The year is coming to it's end and 12 months on my quest has lead me no further than how I first started....I have to be honest, I do feel deflated...endless encounters, brick walls and dead ends...the life of spinsterhood looks like it is coming closer and closer....

Looking back at my bend over backward efforts (such as in the post Gone Fishing - http://halaalchickinthecity.blogspot.co.uk/2013/10/gone-fishing_19.html) I do have to pat myself on the back for trying at least hey?

I'm in my early thirties and looking around its seems things are not as easy as they seemed in my 20's.  Looking at a lot of guys that I have met and know who are in their early to mid thirties its seems that guys/bachelors are very much care free and clinching on to their hay days of their 20's.  The difference with those guys I guess they know that they have no age limit when it comes to finding someone as they are established within their careers and comfortable and can take their pick.  Looking at girls....I mean females, who are in their early to mid 20's they know exactly what they want and I guess established guys who are at that required level of comfort appear to be in their early to mid 30's.  Some may agree or disagree with this, but this is just my observation of things.  One guy I know who is just past his mid 30's said its always better to have a girl who is in her early 20's as she is easily 'moulded'....good luck mate! That's all I'm saying on that!!  My friend and I came up with a name for these 30 something bachelors stuck in their ways (thirty-Fookers).....

Which leads me to think, have I missed something here, am I 10 years behind in my thinking, should I have been more savvy and aimed for someone 10 years my senior all this time or do I now have to cut to the chase and start looking for a sugar daddy???!! :O

While at work being the end of year office banter including new years resolutions for all of us, mine was ''By June to have my office lot invited to MY wedding'' I'm like you having a laugh by JUNE? 6 MONTHS??? Best joke ever this year that!  Then last week at a family dinner, I was speaking to a cousin who asked me how the dating is going, to which I asked him how is his job hunting going (he just graduated from uni).  To which he then said, how about a bet....if he gets a job before I find someone I treat him to dinner, however if I find someone before he gets a job he treats ME to dinner.....and we shook on this and I said ''Whats the deadline?'' He then said ''June''??!!! I screehed saying JUNE? WHY JUNE? That's 6 MONTHS AWAY??!'' I then said ''Noooooo September!'' WTH?!!

In this WHOLE YEAR nothing has materialised...how the heck will anything happen in 6 MONTHS???!...No pressure then!!?

I am actually at a blank page moment in all this now, I have pretty much covered everything, Facebook, Twitter, Tinder,(now deleted after like 2 weeks), Speed dating, Blind dating, online dating, Meet up app, Meetings at weddings, Traditional tea meetings in my home, Being pushed into someones living room unknowingly to say Salaam/Hello with no warning what so ever, random encounters, through friends, through cousins, meeting through Aunty's....have I missed anything??

I think I am going to start like this.....with nothing, with doing absolutely nothing....let's see where that gets me....I think that's a good start to the new year.

Wishing you all a joyous and prosperous new year!!!!

- A Halaal Chick In The City ;)