Well I have been a bit of a busy bee this month! With work, various family get together's and well also continuing the search as always!!
I had a kick start this year...could even say I had been on a bit of a roll...(along with gaining a roll on my anatomy which I am seeking different ways of getting rid!!) ...now the thing about me, I have this habit...well I don't know....when I am on these sites, I do interact but as you may have noticed if you are users of such sites.....a lot of people do not have their pictures on show. When I get a message I do read the message and automatically respond...and as I get an immediate response I write back and then we get the ping pong effect and before you know it as the banter flows and I'm thinking in my head ''Yeah seems pretty normal'' the conversations flow into 'fancy a chat' to which I am pass that awkward point of asking to see their photo's....but then I think if I get them on whats app I get to see a photo on their display pic right?...Well no the jammy dodgers either do not have a photo of themselves or in another case do not even have whats app!!!
So at the very start of this month, I had banter with two guys, both no photos and one was from east London and the other from west London. Both had suggested to meet up quite quickly and to be honest I think that's the best thing to do.....except with me there was some hesitation in the fact I had no idea what they looked like!! I like to think I am getting to know them as a person, but there is always that apprehensiveness of not knowing what you are walking into!!!?! I think I like the element of surprise but looking back you would think I had learnt my lesson from last year with the self proclaimed 'I look like Silvester Stallone and Robert Downy Junior'' (cross-breed).
So the first one I was meeting was Mr East Endz...I was so nervous as always....I think more so as I had not seen a photo, but as I waited (In the east ends) I saw a well dressed 6ft tall, built good looking guy way at me...*blush* and off I totted to meet and greet. It was a really good meet up, just being myself cracking jokes and felt at ease.....so I guess sometimes its nice to have an element of surprise.....but then again.....not?
It was a bit like photo roulette by not seeing a photo...but it was a nice change for once a nice good looking normal guy....but that's how its just been...I am finding you have to keep your options open as guys have a tendency to be aloof and I kinda got the feeling he was looking around to see what else is out there....which is fair enough....I'm doing the same too!!
I met Mr West london a few days later, this one was very keen and in fact messaged me literally an hour before meeting saying he was there waiting! I met him and well I saw someone staring at me and thought that must me him....now this is a common thing that guys state that they are 5''7 and in reality....are my height (5''3). I have learnt to wear flats now to test their height theory!! I mean why lie??! He had a long mac on, a round black jumper, dark jeans and really old white trainers with a back pack on his back......I am quite a warm friendly greeter and I went up to him to greet him and I don't think he knew how to react or interact as a matter of fact!!
We went to a cafe nearby, and it was quite a tiny one at that where all the tables are quite close nit. Considering it was a first meet up, Unlike with Mr East Ends, this felt really awkward...Then he started asking the typical questions, what do you do, where do you live, what are you looking for......LOUDLY.....and I noticed a table of Hijaab sisters on the table behind and they all looked up......ahhh.....He then told me about himself about how he has a house and it has a leaking roof and that his holidays twice a year are now out the window because of the house finances......I just faked smiled and grimaced at the same time.....I was being my usual polite self and thought I would make an effort with the conversation....then suddenly out of nowhere when I was in mid sentence.....the only way I can describe it as something out of Alice in the wonderland the rabbit mad hatter.....he sat bolt right p, picked up his back pack and said ''I have to go'' and had already got up before I could react!!
As he he headed off to pay, the cafe workers asked what number our table was, and then he huffed and puffed and did a twirl of some sort to see what the table was and pointed ''that one''.....I had a hot chocolate and he had the same, and the guy said ''£20.40 please'....he stood there hands apart for a moment and then said ''what??! For two hot chocolates??''....the till guy pressed some buttons and then apologised and said sorry £6.20''....Mr West then huffed and puffed more and then bellowed ''I was about to say £20 for two hot chocolates, what do you put in them GOLD LEAF??'' and then snorted and laughed at his own joke, till guy looked at me blankly and I did too...again fake smiling and grimacing at the same time....but we both where thinking ''whaaaaat??''.....needless to say we awkwardly said good bye with him scurrying off, and when I looked at my phone to see what time it was....I could hardly believe my eyes.....that whole time I spent with Mr West was 31 minutes flat!!! Even a speed dating session is longer then that!!?! Needless to say I have not heard a thing after that!!
In the mean time I got another message from another guy...he seemed charming and as always no photo and the messages back and forth, he eventually asked for my number....and we whats apped and then he eventually called......and talked.....talked.....and talked......3 hours in fact, it got to the point I was just listening and I din't know how to get out of the conversation!!! The next day we where whats apping and I actually avoided the subject of speaking to him as I did not want a 3 hour conversation again.....(I love my sleep!)...he asked me over whats app if I was speaking to anyone else and I was honest....yes I am!! I did not get much response to that....and then I said I am just seeing what is out and I am in no rush....taking each day as it comes. He greeted me goodnight and that was that.....until when I woke up to SIXTY SIX messages on whats app!!??! I was speechless...(I should have realised at this point he was a weirdo when he told me his ex wife has a restraining order against him (he said it was a misunderstanding about some argument they had!!?!).....The guy had started off along with ''no....no....no I can't except the fact you are chatting to others'' (I had only spoken to him the first time the day before!!)....and then just went on and on...having a conversation non stop to himself on my whats app.......I was actually scared.....With the aid of my trusted best friend she helped me compose a ''Dumping text''...I sent and he said something along the lines of ''take care''...and a few minutes later made normal conversation again??! :/ I have blocked and deleted!!
Ok.....so the moral of this story is.....CHECK PHOTOS before replying to messages!!!!
Its all gone a bit quiet at the moment..since all the above.....but we shall see what February brings on my next adventure, despite it being that month where mortals feel the pressure to show their other halves that they love them, I say sod you lot! Grow some balls and throw anti-protest / riot against that fowl day that is February the 14th!!!
Forget burning different flags of other country's or guy Fawkes like president dummies, get your hearts, teddies and roses and throw em to the flames!!!!! YEAAAAHHHH!!
