Well this month has been hectic and busy with work and family. (and yes more wedding stuff ....I still have more events this weekend!!!)...
I have to say my work family and family are amazing and everyday I am able to be my strutting my diva stuff self (I get called a Tea Diva at work and quite rightly so as Tea is sooooo my thing!). But the main thing I am always 100% myself.....until I am around anyone I kinda take a liking to.....I turn into this shy....quiteness-silent being (which is soooo not me!!). And I hate it as I cannot control it......
I have to say I have not been active on websites for months on end this year, something inside me just felt it was good to stay offline in that area......I still think those who are just thinking about looking for someone should by all means still go through that channel, but for me personally I tried tested and a bit tired from it....for now lol.
So this wedding is a close family wedding and to be honest I'm always peacocking at weddings where I am heavily involved (Which is has been every wedding the past 6 years!) Yeah Weddings are a big part of my social life!!! But I think its an amazing way to network and meet people (not just guys!).....obviously there are family, then the bride or grooms in-law family, then the bride or grooms family from the other side, then the bride or grooms social friends and then cousins and uncle and aunties!!! So over the years I have collated more friends and acquiescences..mainly in the form of aunties, great aunts and grand mothers.....lol. I think this is a great investment, as you never know when they will pop out of nowhere and pull something out of the top hat like a rabbit! ;)
So about 2 years ago I met this Aunty (I know this was two years ago as my gorgeous friend just had her 2nd wedding anniversary and its her Aunty!) Anyway she is the one who got me introduced to Aunty Rishta/Aunty Cilla Black....I had not heard from her for about 2 weeks ...I did think I needed to call her but never got around to it due to the busy weekends and late nights I had with the wedding and juggling in work in there also. Last night I had been informing a friend about Aunty Rishta Cilla Black, and right when I had my phone rang and it was her!! I was so happy as from our first conversation we hit it off and got on like a house on fire!
I picked up and said ''Salaams Aunty you are going to live a LONG life as I had just been speaking about you!" She laughed and got right down to business....she said she had met a lovely lady who has a Son, he's 38 and works in IT in the City...I had sent two recent photo's of myself to Aunty Rishta Cilla Black and she said she had shown this guys mum but not him......and his mum liked me....She then said if I was ok with it, she would pass my number to him, but she would not show my photos to him, as he has an i-phone 5 and that me and him could swap photos bless her. She then said that once numbers had been swapped we could meet up for coffee as we don't work far from each other and take it from there. She then added that she has not been to a wedding in two years and has soooo many glitzy outfits but no where to go in them.....she also added if at any of the wedding events I was going to if anyone knew of a single man who is about 60 years old to let her know...she said there is this gentleman who is interested but he's 49!!! She said I'm looking for someone who's 60......bless her heart.....and then it dawned on me.....I knew why I clicked with this lady.......SHE'S LIKE ME!!! Gets high on life and meeting new people (as well as trying to match make myself and others at the same time!!!)......Then I thought of something else....yes there is a part of me that has to be strong at weddings as you ALWAYS hear the same thing ''your turn next'', ''you must be fussy'', or that look.....that *one day it will be your turn look with a slight arm squeeze*.
But it made me think, this Aunty Rishta Cilla Black.....her heart is so big.....not only is she looking for love, but helping others to find it too....And I have always tried to to the same.....love makes the world go around and your reason for living, everything happens for a reason and I think its up to us to see the signs, see how we deal with things and to learn about ourselves and find out what we know is best for us.....No matter what age........ :)
Thursday, 28 August 2014
Sunday, 10 August 2014
WOW!!!!!
TODAY I REACHED OVER 3000 HITS!!! THANK YOU FOR READING AND SUPPORTING ME! MEANS SO MUCH!!!!!
It's been a long time (long time), I shouldn't of left you (left you), Without a dope beat to step to (step to, step to, step to, step to). ;)
Hellooooooooooo / Salaaaaaaam!!
Its been a VERYYYYYYYYYY long time I know!!!
In June I spent some precious time back in the mother land and more important with my precious pearl me Nani / Grandmother. She is amazing and I am always in awe of her, I love sitting and chatting to her and I am always grateful and envious of my cousins who live so close to her as alas she is half way across the planet from me. But as always it was fun, yet always so hard leaving her.....of coarse I heard the words of
''When will I hear the news of you getting married, you are the only one left''. Every she says such things I have a huge lump in my throat as I get quite emotional when I hear her say such things. Another thing that gets me emotional, is how she speaks of my Nana / Grandfather..(he has since passed away unfortunately)...how she says he was a good man, was a gentleman, never swore at her once.....it made me think, and I can speak for myself I have a bit of a potty mouth at times, but I do not think I have ever sworn at anyone to be spiteful....yet I have seen people these days hide and cover their true feelings as an easy way to protect themselves by using hurtful language...its like once things are said, they cannot be taken back. Yes you can forgive, but does not mean you cannot forget. But a true gentleman would never do such a thing, and I think these days that is such a rarity in itself.
Speaking to my Nani made me realise how things where back then and how solid their relationship was. And yes they did indeed have an arranged marriage, looking back at my Nana he was so laid back and a joker, he used to shuffle dance around the house like Bill Cosby in the The Cosby show.... :) But with his laid back jokey mood and my Nani's sensible-ness it was amusing seeing them together and how my Nana would wind my Nani up, lovingly and seeing that was always lovely, heart warming. I just hope I find an inch of what my grandparents had and what my parents have and I will be forever thankful and grateful. She did say one thing to me......She hopes I find someone who I love just as much as I love her.....and that indeed got a lump in my throat.......
Naturally being back home, every single family I saw there spoke of the 'M' word....Marriage!! All I could say was ''It will happen when it happens''....
Upon my return it was head on into Ramadaan, which I will not lie, I did find hard this year, but managed to soldier on!
It is now full blown wedding season, and yes I have weddings to be part of and attend! Wedding meetings, Mehendis, Nikkah and Wedding reception, takes me right up to September!
However today I got a call from one of my friends aunties (who I had met at a wedding) and she informed me about a lady.....lets call her Aunty Rishta / Aunty Cilla Black...well I was given her number and I called this afternoon and introduced myself....to which I was told...'Oh hello...would you mind calling in about 15 minutes as there is a general knowledge quiz on TV and if I could call back later......(or maybe one of them Indian drama's on Star Plus was on and dint want to be disturbed like my mum gets absorbed into them!). So I waited and called, she seemed like a nice lady and asked me questions like full name, where I live and age and then asked.....''what is your skin tone colour''....I was like excuse me!!!?? She said are you fair? Dark? I was like errmmm to be honest I don't look into the colour of someone but she said she gets a lot of people who she has previously spoken to, still do tend to ask....so again she asked 'What colour would you say you are?'' I was like erm...well I have tanned quite a bit.....but I'm not dark, the next thing I hear she says in a slow (while writing on a piece of paper) ''Sun Tanned''....I was like er...ohh...What else could I say??
So she said she will get back to me in a few days...which is fine and I sent her some photo's of myself also.....
I shall keep you all posted, and once again sorry its been ages! And I promise to post more often, I feel like I have left gaps here and there, but when things crop up I shall blog this!!!
Ooooh and another thing I am now on Instagram! Follow me on Halaalchickinthecity !!! :)
I shall leave you with this parting gift....which indeed did have me ''On the floor''.....rolling around laughing!!!!!
Its been a VERYYYYYYYYYY long time I know!!!
In June I spent some precious time back in the mother land and more important with my precious pearl me Nani / Grandmother. She is amazing and I am always in awe of her, I love sitting and chatting to her and I am always grateful and envious of my cousins who live so close to her as alas she is half way across the planet from me. But as always it was fun, yet always so hard leaving her.....of coarse I heard the words of
''When will I hear the news of you getting married, you are the only one left''. Every she says such things I have a huge lump in my throat as I get quite emotional when I hear her say such things. Another thing that gets me emotional, is how she speaks of my Nana / Grandfather..(he has since passed away unfortunately)...how she says he was a good man, was a gentleman, never swore at her once.....it made me think, and I can speak for myself I have a bit of a potty mouth at times, but I do not think I have ever sworn at anyone to be spiteful....yet I have seen people these days hide and cover their true feelings as an easy way to protect themselves by using hurtful language...its like once things are said, they cannot be taken back. Yes you can forgive, but does not mean you cannot forget. But a true gentleman would never do such a thing, and I think these days that is such a rarity in itself.
Speaking to my Nani made me realise how things where back then and how solid their relationship was. And yes they did indeed have an arranged marriage, looking back at my Nana he was so laid back and a joker, he used to shuffle dance around the house like Bill Cosby in the The Cosby show.... :) But with his laid back jokey mood and my Nani's sensible-ness it was amusing seeing them together and how my Nana would wind my Nani up, lovingly and seeing that was always lovely, heart warming. I just hope I find an inch of what my grandparents had and what my parents have and I will be forever thankful and grateful. She did say one thing to me......She hopes I find someone who I love just as much as I love her.....and that indeed got a lump in my throat.......
Naturally being back home, every single family I saw there spoke of the 'M' word....Marriage!! All I could say was ''It will happen when it happens''....
Upon my return it was head on into Ramadaan, which I will not lie, I did find hard this year, but managed to soldier on!
It is now full blown wedding season, and yes I have weddings to be part of and attend! Wedding meetings, Mehendis, Nikkah and Wedding reception, takes me right up to September!
However today I got a call from one of my friends aunties (who I had met at a wedding) and she informed me about a lady.....lets call her Aunty Rishta / Aunty Cilla Black...well I was given her number and I called this afternoon and introduced myself....to which I was told...'Oh hello...would you mind calling in about 15 minutes as there is a general knowledge quiz on TV and if I could call back later......(or maybe one of them Indian drama's on Star Plus was on and dint want to be disturbed like my mum gets absorbed into them!). So I waited and called, she seemed like a nice lady and asked me questions like full name, where I live and age and then asked.....''what is your skin tone colour''....I was like excuse me!!!?? She said are you fair? Dark? I was like errmmm to be honest I don't look into the colour of someone but she said she gets a lot of people who she has previously spoken to, still do tend to ask....so again she asked 'What colour would you say you are?'' I was like erm...well I have tanned quite a bit.....but I'm not dark, the next thing I hear she says in a slow (while writing on a piece of paper) ''Sun Tanned''....I was like er...ohh...What else could I say??
So she said she will get back to me in a few days...which is fine and I sent her some photo's of myself also.....
I shall keep you all posted, and once again sorry its been ages! And I promise to post more often, I feel like I have left gaps here and there, but when things crop up I shall blog this!!!
Ooooh and another thing I am now on Instagram! Follow me on Halaalchickinthecity !!! :)
I shall leave you with this parting gift....which indeed did have me ''On the floor''.....rolling around laughing!!!!!
Tuesday, 3 June 2014
What's Love Got To Do With It.......when it comes to food that is? ;p
They say that a way to a man's heart is through his stomach......er hello? Don't us females have to eat to? And why can we not be portrayed to enjoy our food? its not like we all stand there like
The amount of times guys who I have met and say that girls they have met never eat...I'm like dude my size 8 days are well and truly over! I am comfortable with myself and happy, I think if you cannot be comfortable in your own skin, how can you expect someone else to be comfortable with you?
Magazines, Online adverts, social media focus's so much on weight and looks these days, I find it quite alarming how everything seems to be on face value. And I guess like food, if you do not like the look of something your not going to eat it. Our sight will send the signals to our brain and we are quick to decide that its not right for you and you should keep away from it.
I think its good to try at least, be adventurous, I have friends who dismiss foods without trying it, is this because we are now a fussy nation, as we now like the look of things rather then the taste?
I think this is why I am so optimistic when it comes to being set up by friends and family and not seeing pictures. Just good to be thrown in there....but I believe if you meet someone and there is something there, and you are not sure...still give it a chance.
I have been blessed to have an amazing network of friends and family, and most come in two's...the married couples. I love being around them and always feel their warmth and never feel like a gooseberry. Being around such lovely people, I see how they interact, joke, love, and annoy each other, but it is all through growth, patience and love....I know it is not something that happens over night and Inshallah (God Willing) if/when I find someone, I will make an effort......it is almost like I am re-training myself to see the bigger picture.
This year I have met quite a few guys, and to be honest I think their ego's are their own demons and have made them SO blind!! Unable to see what amazing ladies are around them. I still think guys have their pick of the bunch of ladies to choose from and I cannot see that changing.....that whole thing of looking out to see what is better, which is possible, but if they are constantly looking.....would it be better to have a love and be loved then end up being alone?
Talking about love I came across this and really hope to go to this, you guys might find it interesting too :)
http://www.southbankcentre.co.uk/whatson/festivals-series/festival-of-love
I also came across this and I thought it was such a wonderful idea! When misfortunes happen to us, I think it is easy to think that we are the only person who has gone through such a thing. When we look around and speak and see peoples experiences, its like a sort of healing process which what I think this is:
http://brokenships.com/
People sent in things from previous relationships and have a story to go with it.....I am always fascinated by peoples own stories, I think my favourite ones are about ''the ones that got away'' and the ''how did you guys meet''? :)
I recently saw Maleficent recently, and it definitely confirmed my views on Disney films....that there is a reason why the female villain's where the way they where! - BROKEN HEARTS BY THE REAL VILLAIN'S->MEN!!!
I don't blame them one bit! I think they are just misunderstood ladies....creatures. ;p
(But deffo go see Maleficent I loved it!)
But going back to the subject of love....I think there are all kinds of love, and seeing and being around all forms and types of love is a blessing in itself, even if I do not have one of my own.....but there is one thing that cannot come between me and itself......My love of Food! I honestly think that Tina Turner's song was really about her love of food too......
''It may seem to you
That I'm acting confused
When you're close to me
If I tend to look dazed
I've read it someplace
I've got cause to be
There's a name for it
There's a phrase that fits
But whatever the reason
You do it for me''
I CALL THAT HUNGER RIGHT THERE!
Until next time ;)
The amount of times guys who I have met and say that girls they have met never eat...I'm like dude my size 8 days are well and truly over! I am comfortable with myself and happy, I think if you cannot be comfortable in your own skin, how can you expect someone else to be comfortable with you?
Magazines, Online adverts, social media focus's so much on weight and looks these days, I find it quite alarming how everything seems to be on face value. And I guess like food, if you do not like the look of something your not going to eat it. Our sight will send the signals to our brain and we are quick to decide that its not right for you and you should keep away from it.
I think its good to try at least, be adventurous, I have friends who dismiss foods without trying it, is this because we are now a fussy nation, as we now like the look of things rather then the taste?
I think this is why I am so optimistic when it comes to being set up by friends and family and not seeing pictures. Just good to be thrown in there....but I believe if you meet someone and there is something there, and you are not sure...still give it a chance.
I have been blessed to have an amazing network of friends and family, and most come in two's...the married couples. I love being around them and always feel their warmth and never feel like a gooseberry. Being around such lovely people, I see how they interact, joke, love, and annoy each other, but it is all through growth, patience and love....I know it is not something that happens over night and Inshallah (God Willing) if/when I find someone, I will make an effort......it is almost like I am re-training myself to see the bigger picture.
This year I have met quite a few guys, and to be honest I think their ego's are their own demons and have made them SO blind!! Unable to see what amazing ladies are around them. I still think guys have their pick of the bunch of ladies to choose from and I cannot see that changing.....that whole thing of looking out to see what is better, which is possible, but if they are constantly looking.....would it be better to have a love and be loved then end up being alone?
Talking about love I came across this and really hope to go to this, you guys might find it interesting too :)
http://www.southbankcentre.co.uk/whatson/festivals-series/festival-of-love
I also came across this and I thought it was such a wonderful idea! When misfortunes happen to us, I think it is easy to think that we are the only person who has gone through such a thing. When we look around and speak and see peoples experiences, its like a sort of healing process which what I think this is:
http://brokenships.com/
People sent in things from previous relationships and have a story to go with it.....I am always fascinated by peoples own stories, I think my favourite ones are about ''the ones that got away'' and the ''how did you guys meet''? :)
I recently saw Maleficent recently, and it definitely confirmed my views on Disney films....that there is a reason why the female villain's where the way they where! - BROKEN HEARTS BY THE REAL VILLAIN'S->MEN!!!
I don't blame them one bit! I think they are just misunderstood ladies....creatures. ;p
(But deffo go see Maleficent I loved it!)
But going back to the subject of love....I think there are all kinds of love, and seeing and being around all forms and types of love is a blessing in itself, even if I do not have one of my own.....but there is one thing that cannot come between me and itself......My love of Food! I honestly think that Tina Turner's song was really about her love of food too......
''It may seem to you
That I'm acting confused
When you're close to me
If I tend to look dazed
I've read it someplace
I've got cause to be
There's a name for it
There's a phrase that fits
But whatever the reason
You do it for me''
Until next time ;)
Thursday, 15 May 2014
When I feel bad......
Wanda ALWAYS makes me feel good, reppin us single ladies, and showin them guys what they missin.....HAYYYYYYY!
I should be in the FBI.....(Females Beware Imposters! = Men!)
As the search continues, I am discovering new things....not about myself but about the people I have encounters with.
And these encounters only make me more wonder about just how the opposite sex think and work. Some guys just seem to be playing the game and looking for one thing by portraying to be the perfect guy, yet somehow switch to this egoistic big head!
So from my list (please see blog entry: http://halaalchickinthecity.blogspot.co.uk/2013_02_01_archive.html )
This is a guy who I had met a few times, and well he did grow on me....however for some reason, this dude went all cold on me. So naturally I left him to it. (The way he got his name, was because he would rather eat a bag of peanuts then talk to me!! - True story). This had been about three years ago, and I had deleted his number naturally, however it appears he had not. He messages me and I ignore them, however the trouble with technology (whats app) you can see the profile picture, and I had noticed it appeared that he had a 'female' in his display photos. Yet this fool still messaged like normal and then said he had 'enticed' a young lady. To which I said that's good....however he would make cheeky comments and I would always refer nicely to his lady. Yet he would still try and make small talk...I ignore the messages, yet he still comes back trying to make conversation. And yes he tries to flirt and it makes me angry as I never respond....I am saving my big response to blast him as all I can think of is his poor wife! When he had the chance to get to know me, and give me the time of day, it dint suit him then.....but for some weird reason now he is married it now suits him.....SERIOUSLY? What planet is he on? The next time Mr Peanut messages, he will sure be crushed into butter!!!
One fellow who I have recently been speaking to and very keen to meet up.....had got me a bit apprehensive. Lets just say my womanly instincts kicked in and I kinda went a bit FBI on him. When he first messaged me from a matrimonial site, he had quite a few pictures and I dint question anything, until we spoke....and things became a bit more apparent. He is about 8 years older then I, not that age is a matter but his views on things where definitely different from my own. Which got me thinking about his photo's for some reason.....he mentioned that he had just opened a new business, and me being me I did some social media research and came across some photos of this business he had...and low and behold....there where recent photo's of him. he had uploaded OLD photo's to the site....and I mean mega old photos.....I think me and on line dating need to end our relationship.....me not seeing photos to me seeing photo's and finding new ones......its just not meant for me!!
But by seeing what I have had to go through, cutting away all the weeds through this urban jungle, I am hoping there will be a clearing someday!!! I have you guys who are with me and also The Almighty above, who at times I think has a sense of humour, but also it makes me have patience, faith and I am more certain of myself. Not letting myself compromise so early on just to keep a guy interested....it is a shame that there are guys out there who are looking to see what they can get, lie and go behind backs.....but hey, they all can't be bad right?.....Not like we are all bad also! ;)
Until next time!!
- A Halaal Chick in this big City! :)
Wednesday, 30 April 2014
May......the force be with you!.....I mean it!!!
It feels like I have not written in a life time on here! I think it is because if I am honest with myself I have been in reflection and gathering my thoughts......sometimes its funny how things can happen in life and at points you can have real juxtapositions (the fact of two things being seen or placed close together with contrasting effect.- yep pretty much sums up things in my life that happen...or the guys I have met!! lol) .
Going by my last entry about people not writing letters etc any more.....today at work (when I should have been busy looking at my work emails!!) For some reason I logged onto my personal email account....I actually have 27762 emails.......but most are jobs, fashion subscribes and Muslim matches!....But despite this....I scrolled to the start.....2006.....8 years ago....and scrolling through I found emails from previous encounters.....such as Mr Canada, Mr Just Kidding....but not just that......females who I classed as best friends...(at that time!)...but eventually peoples true colours come out in the end!! I think there are reasons why people are removed from your life for the better and its a funny thing how it naturally happens......all I am saying is ''Karma comes around!!''....
But it lead me to think, if I had an opportunity now to say something to my younger self of 8 years ago, what would I say?....I feel as much as people and environment has changed around me....the big main thing is still the same.....still single!!! I also thought what if my future self from 8 years ahead would say to me now.....I might be loosing you guys a bit here, but yeah I'm a big thinker! My dad has always said from a young age I am silent a lot....and that itself was dangerous!!! lol.....But all in all, its made me think I have to make changes...I have been chatting to a few guys, but I am waiting around for them....just ''there''....and looking back at the old emails...I did the same...I hung around, waited on their baited breath...I can't compromise with something that is not mine, not guaranteed....I believe that compromising starts when you start your marriage and helps build the foundations of your marriage....and I am unapologetic about the fact I will not compromise with myself right now......It is all or nothing.....Guys seem to want a bit of this and that but beat around the bush when it comes to the subject of Marriage.....
There have been cases where I have been interested in some suitors and for some reason they where not interested in me, a few years down the line once I am over that episode they think they can get back in there once they know I am no longer interested!?
I am far too busy to be worrying, waiting around for nothing to happen.....I believe in keeping yourself happy.....and TREATIN YO SELFFFF!!! ;)
Life is too short! I promise not to leave it so long for my next blog entry! Until then May the force be with you! And don't et anyone poop on your happy rainbow cloud, instead chuck that poop at them!!! ;p
Going by my last entry about people not writing letters etc any more.....today at work (when I should have been busy looking at my work emails!!) For some reason I logged onto my personal email account....I actually have 27762 emails.......but most are jobs, fashion subscribes and Muslim matches!....But despite this....I scrolled to the start.....2006.....8 years ago....and scrolling through I found emails from previous encounters.....such as Mr Canada, Mr Just Kidding....but not just that......females who I classed as best friends...(at that time!)...but eventually peoples true colours come out in the end!! I think there are reasons why people are removed from your life for the better and its a funny thing how it naturally happens......all I am saying is ''Karma comes around!!''....
But it lead me to think, if I had an opportunity now to say something to my younger self of 8 years ago, what would I say?....I feel as much as people and environment has changed around me....the big main thing is still the same.....still single!!! I also thought what if my future self from 8 years ahead would say to me now.....I might be loosing you guys a bit here, but yeah I'm a big thinker! My dad has always said from a young age I am silent a lot....and that itself was dangerous!!! lol.....But all in all, its made me think I have to make changes...I have been chatting to a few guys, but I am waiting around for them....just ''there''....and looking back at the old emails...I did the same...I hung around, waited on their baited breath...I can't compromise with something that is not mine, not guaranteed....I believe that compromising starts when you start your marriage and helps build the foundations of your marriage....and I am unapologetic about the fact I will not compromise with myself right now......It is all or nothing.....Guys seem to want a bit of this and that but beat around the bush when it comes to the subject of Marriage.....
There have been cases where I have been interested in some suitors and for some reason they where not interested in me, a few years down the line once I am over that episode they think they can get back in there once they know I am no longer interested!?
I am far too busy to be worrying, waiting around for nothing to happen.....I believe in keeping yourself happy.....and TREATIN YO SELFFFF!!! ;)
Life is too short! I promise not to leave it so long for my next blog entry! Until then May the force be with you! And don't et anyone poop on your happy rainbow cloud, instead chuck that poop at them!!! ;p
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